The infamous line that we’ve all heard at the end of a break-up speech. It’s meant to warm the heart for a few minutes and soften the blow to the fact that you, my friend, have just been dumped; but should we take this line literally? What if he really does want to be friends? What if by being just his friend he’ll realize how amazing I am and want to get back together with me? Is taking the line “we can still be friends” literally a break-up do, or a break-up don’t?
Does he really want to be your friend post break-up?
I’m sorry ladies, but the answer is ‘no’. A man knows when he’s hurting your feelings, he only says he wants to be friends because, in that moment, he’s trying not to seem like the ‘bad-guy’ he’s being.
Taking up his offer for a post break-up friendship will only push him further away, it will make him uncomfortable and eventually irritated with that fact that he’s probably seeing you more now than when you were even together!
If you stay friends with your ex, you're giving him nothing to miss so you’re actually slimming down the possibility of you two getting back together. With a clean break he will, and take my word for this ladies, he will wonder about you and how you’re doing, especially if you refrain from using your Facebook status as a diary–he can see that you know!
Your ex wants to wonder about how you’re doing so stay on the down low when it comes to your social media updates, aka, don’t act overly happy but also don’t post about how sad and heartbroken you are, keep it in a neutral area. Men love a mystery, and if you don’t act too broken or needy post-breakup he’ll wonder if he was really all that great in your eyes in the first place.
Remember ladies “we can still be friends” is just the ice on the break-up burn. You shouldn’t take it literally, especially if you plan on trying to win him back. You're better than that anyways, it’s his loss really.
Don’t ever forget how wonderful you are!
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